A Compassionate Approach to Ending Relationships Understanding the Concept of Conscious Uncoupling Ending a relationship is never easy. The pain, the heartbreak, the uncertainty – it can all feel overwhelming. But what if there was a way to approach relationship...
Rediscover the Thrill of Falling in Love That heart-pounding, all-encompassing experience that sweeps you off your feet and makes you believe in the power of connection? Embarking on a journey of love with someone from a completely different culture is a unique...
Simple Steps To Embrace Love by Overcoming Fear Ever found yourself apprehensive about love? It’s a sentiment I encounter frequently in my practice—fear of love. Let’s have an open conversation about choosing love. At the core of our emotions lie two...
Have you ever wondered why some marriages stand the test of time while others crumble under the weight of challenges? If you find yourself at a crossroads in your relationship, it’s essential to recognize that you’re not alone. Marriage, like any other...
Have you ever found yourself at a crossroads in life, facing a decision that feels overwhelmingly challenging, and wondering how to navigate the uncertain path ahead? Perhaps it’s a decision that affects not only your own life but also the lives of your loved...
If you’re reading this, chances are you’re facing one of the most challenging decisions of your life—whether to stay in your marriage or pursue a divorce. Emotions are running high, and the uncertainty of it all can feel overwhelming. Questions like...
Is conflict bad.? Let’s talk about conflict, disagreements, fights, mishaps, all these things where two people living together are just are not agreeing and the conversation is not flowing. Often conflict emerges quickly when we disagree. Things might escalate....
Have you ever been suspicious of your partner’s activities? Have you ever been accused of cheating? Is your partner the jealous type and shows signs of being suspicious of your friendships when you swear that there is nothing there! Perhaps your partner spouse is...
It’s very natural to have disagreements with your spouse at times. But if you’re not careful like many couples you could fall into a bad habit of only seeing your partner and the whole relationship in a negative light. Have you stopped seeing the good? Work...
When couples here the term – siding with the enemy, they usually respond with “we don’t have any enemies”. But an enemy can be anybody that your partner is venting about. It may be someone they’ve been offended by, or someone that they complain about. What...
It’s been a tough year! Over the last year, many places have been locked down and borders have closed due to the coronavirus pandemic. Even now as I write, in Sydney we are in the midst of another Covid lockdown. Hopefully, it’s short this time! It’s no surprise if...
Cultivating loving kindness builds more acceptance. Loving kindness is a mindfulness practice marked by acts of kindness. It allows you to embody the qualities of love and kindness It allows you to build compassion for yourself and others. It reduces your bias towards...
It can be incredibly frustrating when you’re feeling flat, sad or worried and you don’t even know why. All you want is to feel joy, excitement and happiness. Your mind tells you that your feelings rule and you can’t possibly reign them in. So you resign yourself to a...
Ma is the term for a specific Japanese concept of negative space. … it means “gap”, “space”, “pause”) . Ma means emptiness and it also describes a certain kind of noticing. Noticing with awareness is often taught in...
A holiday with your new partner can be exciting, but it can also be anxiety provoking. -Travelling with you someone new in your life can reveal their true nature. The longer the holiday, the more you get to learn about each other and reveal your own true colours. How...
When you fight and call each other names you tear your love apart. It may be a simple trigger or a long-lasting dispute, either way, you’ll need to stop the fighting and do some and healing between the two of you. This method is based on an exercise from Gottman...
This is for couples considering a life together. Whether you’re intending to marry or cohabit, you will learn essential skills to keep your relationship strong and resilient. In this program, you will be invited to take an online assessment. The inventory focuses on...
Many people believe marriage counselling doesn’t work. And I agree. It won’t matter if it’s a 50-minute marriage counselling session or a full day intensive. If you can see yourself in more than one statement below, then stop…don’t go to marriage or relationship...
Emotional connection is the feel-good-feelings between you that keep your marriage alive so your relationship can thrive. But what do you say when your partner says NO to your requests for emotional connection? You don’t see eye to eye. You want more emotional...
Lonely marriage? Are you lonely? Do you feel the emptiness of your lonely days flow on one by one? Do you wish your lonely marriage was different? Do you long for your partner’s arms or attention? Do you want more union and bonding? Do you have a lonely marriage, and...
Have you noticed that you and your partner fight about the same things over and over again? Are you tired of thinking it’s resolved only to have that same old issue rear it’s ugly head again, and again and again? Are you at a loss as to what to do to get a glimpse of...
You want a happy fulfilling, relationship that enables you to thrive. But sometimes the path to happiness is blocked by unwanted internal junk. Your internal world is made up of thoughts and feelings. Is you inner world a lush garden of fruitful thoughts that inspire...
A holiday with your new partner can be exciting, but it can also be anxiety-provoking.- Travelling with you someone new in your life can reveal their true nature. The longer the holiday, the more you get to learn about each other and reveal your own true colours. How...
Ever had that feeling of REALLY knowing someone? You know them so well you can reach inside them and predict their actions from a simple conversations. If you answered yes to that question, I’m willing to bet you‘re a good communicator. Communication is your access...
What work-life balance? Why do we have such a hard time saying no? I was asked to help a friend write a report. I said Yes. I was asked to attend a committee meeting. I said Yes. I was asked to fill in at short notice for a trainer who was sick. I said yes. I was...
How do you deal with difficult people? Customers? Staff? Siblings or Spouse? Do some people make you growl with anger? Underneath the pretences, the civility, the social etiquette and the mask, there is more. There is YOU, your feelings, emotions and that nagging...
Our brains like consistency. What you tell yourself about your circumstance, life, who you are, and what’s happening to you, is a story. The story in your mind about you, your capabilities and traits follow well-worn neural paths and these paths are reinforced every...
I ran a marathon and it was gruelling. Every step of huff ‘n’ puff filled me with energy…until the last 5 k. Just one step I had no more to give but that white line that signalled the end was nowhere in sight. As I pushed my legs to carry on for one more step...
When you get stressed do you respond by yelling and shouting or do you retreat in your inside world and hope the stress goes away? Often your body will give you the first sign that you are uncomfortable and on the way to that slippery slide we call stress. You may...
The gift of giving doesn’t come naturally to everyone and I was reminded of this only recently. Wolves in business I’ve had a longstanding painful work interaction, with a business. I have values and found myself purposefully playing with wolves … I knew I...
If you want to make long-lasting changes in your life, then go ahead and change your thoughts, feelings and behaviours. To change your life change your brain The field of brain science and cognitive neuropsychology has advanced tremendously in recent years and we now...
People ask me “how do you do mindfulness”? My answer is always the same “it can’t be learnt as a concept because it’s a state and not a trait.” Mindfulness is a way of being… it is as simple as breathing… if you can breathe you are doing it! I also get asked,...
In business as in life, we are all leaders. We may lead a team, a group, a family but more importantly, we lead ourselves on the journey called life. On this journey, you meet people, some you adore, some seem bland and others just plainly push your buttons and it...
“Toughen up” “Pull your socks up” “Get your act together” These sayings are heard often but what do people mean when they tell you to dig deep? Others may want you to find your internal resources, improve your relationships, cope with whatever...
You attend training for lots of things…but what about your relationships? Do you know all there is to know? Here are 16 reasons why you need to up-skill your relationship You will gain clarity You will gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner You...
If Happy was a drink, what would it look like? I bet you secretly nominated your favourite alcoholic beverage… and you’re not alone! The majority of people turn to something outside of themselves to find Happy. The most common go – to option is alcohol but then weed...
“How are you?” “I’m OK” But do you really mean it? Lots of people go about their life feeling broken. You want to be fixed for your infidelity, or lack of confidence or your anxious state or because you’re just not likable. “FIX ME!” “You...
When one partner leaves you want to be supportive to your friend that’s been left behind. When they’re sad or grieving they need your support. So how do you do that? Watch Your Own Anxiety As you drive over to their house, you know you have a job to do, after all...
What fascinates and interests me, is one simple observation…most people just want to be heard… We are after all social animals and our biology dictates that we interact and talk and commune with others. Our ability to express ourselves and our ability to listen are...
What did you say YES to? Your parents may have been amazing and I bet you’re grateful for what they taught you. Right? You may have picked up a handful of golden life nuggets from doting parents, but could they have gifted you some not so pleasant beliefs, ideas even...
Ever been stuck? I mean really stuck with a life problem or issue or situation that goes round and round and round in your head. You know you have thought about every option, every angle, every scenario and every possible answer but NaH! Nothing… you’re still STUCK....
Have you ever felt empty? Are you suffering? Have your emotions run away from you as tears? Do you stop to think about the meaning of YOUR life? Victor Frankl in his award-winning book “Man’s Search For Meaning”, talks about the suffering he endured in the...
The transformative power of breath “Breathe in, Breathe out what does not serve you” I read the words and I held them tightly as I entered the yoga class… for the whole 26 postures and the two breathing exercises. The yoga studio I attend is not your average studio....
This blog started as a rant on my Facebook page and then… I thought otherwise. I read the headlines in an article in Business Insider and I was mad. As I read further I was reassured but not enough for me to let it go! The article ( linked below) offers business...
Have you ever done something, even though that little voice inside was screaming NO!… NO!… STOP!… DON’T DO THIS! and you did it anyway? … and as expected, the outcome was disastrous!!! Well you are not alone! I have made a whoppa of a mistake…...
I sat and listened to the story She poured out her sadness and distress. She really wanted to connect with her daughter. She was sick of the yelling, screaming and slammed doors. “I try so hard” … she said. So I asked the obvious question, “how do you...
Some people are surprised when I tell them my business name and I’ve concluded that it may be confronting for some. The conversation goes like this… My new business name is culture of care Why? Because that name accurately speaks to my values and it’s what I want to...
Some people avoid the conversations that they think will hurt their partner. Others fear getting hurt themselves. If you disagree on an issue, remember …conflict can bring you closer. Your goal is to stop the conflict from escalating into a full-blown screaming match...
I sat next to a first year Uni student at an event. He was doing engineering and he told me quite frankly he hated it!!! He was wondering what to do with his life. This is not an uncommon story. I usually see the adult version of this person in my clinic…. Many years...
Many years ago, I ran a program called “Super Kids” and it gave kids a “toolkit for life”. …My kids were young and I was very much part of their world and I knew the joy, pain, laughter and hurt of growing up, so it was natural that I should run such a program and...
