Simple Steps To Embrace Love by Overcoming Fear
Ever found yourself apprehensive about love? It’s a sentiment I encounter frequently in my practice—fear of love.
Let’s have an open conversation about choosing love. At the core of our emotions lie two fundamental forces: fear and love. Opting for fear inadvertently keeps love at bay. Even if fear is a subconscious choice, it acts as a barrier to inviting love into your life. The key? Take small, intentional steps towards love.
How To Inch Away from Fear And Toward Love
I get it; it’s not a walk in the park. Past hurts, rejections and depleting experiences make the journey seem daunting. Picture yourself at the foot of a mountain, with love awaiting at its summit. The path appears challenging, filled with uncertainties, rocks, and hills. Fear convinces you of all the potential hurdles and falls, making you hesitate and afraid to take another step to ascend.
People often do the same with love—foresee the worst, let fear take over, and end up stagnant, avoiding relationships due to the dread of rejection or betrayal.
The solution? Cultivate purposeful, deliberate steps towards the love you desire. Take your time, be gentle with yourself, and progress at your own pace.
Ask The One Crucial Question
When you pause, ask yourself why you’re standing still. Is it fear or love? Clarity emerges. For many, fear is the culprit. Introspection helps identify and work with that fear, enabling meaningful conversations about it. Always evaluate your next move, ensuring it aligns with your pace.
Notice When You Are Withdrawing From Your Partner
If you sense yourself withdrawing from a partner, reconsider your steps. Moving backward won’t lead you to the love you want. Address the inner conflict—fear or love ?—through purposeful intention. Pause, tune in to your intuitive knowingness, and discover the answer. Trust yourself, identify the source of your fear, and build skills to overcome the internal hurdle.
Identify Your Tiny Step Towards Love
Whether it’s a daunting conversation, staying active in the relationship, articulating your needs, voicing fears, or entering/leaving a relationship—know that love encompasses self-love.
In situations that are difficult, identify the tiniest step to healing the hurt. If the relationship is beyond repair, let self love guide you to your next step. By gradually taking steps to take time apart or even end the relationship. Every moment is an opportunity to choose love, and self love …even if it means making friends with fear.
Embrace Fear As A Companion
Fear induces confusion and procrastination, hindering vulnerability and intimacy. Befriend fear by acknowledging it, holding your own hand, and encouraging small steps. Ask yourself critical questions about what you see or feel and any red flags, and a sense of not being safe.
With each tiny step, clarity emerges. With clarity a knowing emerges and fear dissipates, and the solid ground beneath provides stability.
Cultivate Trust in Yourself
Trust is pivotal in mature relationships, beginning with self-trust. Cultivate the certainty that you can recover from life’s challenges, fostering resilience and self-love. Life is about connection, and denying yourself love is an injustice. Instead of avoiding love, invite more connection by trusting yourself to navigate challenges.
Build Self-Love and Trust: The Ultimate Keys
Care for yourself, show compassion toward your fears, and stop self-judgment. Give yourself what you expect from a loving partner. By loving yourself, you befriend fear, gaining the skills to navigate relationships. Studying yourself through relationship skill-building instils confidence and the certainty that you can overcome challenges.
Choose Love
In every moment, choose love over fear. Self-trust is the cornerstone, allowing you to recover and navigate challenges. If fear paralyzes you, take intentional steps toward love. You have the agency to steer your life in the direction you desire.
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Iman Iskander, with over 20 years of experience as a relationship therapist, workshop leader, and mindfulness teacher at Culture of Care, is on a mission to help people find love, repair relationships, and build resilient bonds with a strong sense of self. Contact Iman for a FREE 15-minute phone call or email for inquiries. https://calendly.com/imaniskander-info-28230/15min?month=2023-12 If you found this blog helpful, explore our free resources.