An enemy is anybody that your partner is complaining about.
Sally’s boss challenged her and publicly questioned the quality of her work. When she returned home, she downloaded to her partner. He heard all about her bad experience with the boss. How did he respond ?
Find out why “get a grip” is the worst response.
Make your relationship and communication a holding container for connection and bonding. Listen for clues on how to respond to your partner when they complain about someone else.
Don’t side with the enemy.