“Your intimate relationship is like a delicate plant.
Attend to it and it will grow.
Nourish it and it will blossom.
Neglect it and it will wither and die”.

Iman Iskander

Failed relationships leave behind a trail of hurt and destruction. Whether you’re in a marriage or committed relationship, I’d love to help prevent you from having to go through the pain of separation or divorce

ABOUT IMAN

Iman is the principal couples therapist and counsellor at Culture of Care Sydney.

Iman uses all her coaching skills, clinical skills and workplace expertise to work with people on their relationships. She is innately an avid learner and is passionate about having the latest tools and skills to help others.

She found that the best training for couples counselling was in the US.

Fuelled by a passion for developing people and bettering relationships, Iman decided to commute from Sydney to the US for several years to learn from the best. The Bader Pearson Developmental Model of couple’s therapy was found to be the most impactful in changing lives and building better relationships.

The Developmental Model helps couples in distress by developing the individual and encouraging them to come from their higher self. It also dives into the implications of adult attachment issues within intimate relationships.

The results are worth it.

Iman Iskander is the only Australian practitioner being personally mentored by Drs Ellyn Bader and Dr Peter Pearson.

She now offers training and supervision to couples counsellors. Iman Iskander’s practice is in Sydney, Australia.

PERSONALLY SPEAKING

What are some words that describe you Iman?
  • Learner
  • Developer
  • Empathic
  • Mindful
  • Tea lover
Why do you choose Learner?

I don’t stop learning. I’m always doing a course and the next one is lined up too.

I am trained as a Mental Health Clinical Social Worker and an Accredited Mental Health Social Worker (AMHSW) Medicare Australia endorsed. I have an Honours degree from the University of Sydney and my published thesis was on “Voices Unheard”. But being published in my early 20’s wasn’t enough for me!

Being an avid learner, I returned to study Applied Science and then later Human Factors /Ergonomics.

Why ? you may ask…

Because science informs all that we know about human psychology, and … I need to understand WHY and HOW we do what we do. That’s why I’m passionate about neuroscience and neuropsychology.

How would you describe your expertise?

I work exclusively with couples on their relationships. I’ve been helping people in relationships throughout my career.

Some of my earlier work was with kids.

Fast forward 10 years…

Now, I work exclusively with couples to help them reconnect in their intimate relationships and marriage.

I am a relationship counsellor and I offer skill building workshops as well.

I’ve always had a fascination with people and the dynamics between people in interaction.

  • What makes a functional and a dysfunctional relationship?
  • How do we know that?
  • What does science tell us?
  • Who does it well?

I have been in the relationships industry for over 20 years. A large part of my career has been in the corporate world where I used my skills to improve the well-being, health and safety of people at work.

It became clear to me that whilst I developed mental health strategies for corporate workers, the real issues often stemmed from the quality of relationships and the ability to resolve interpersonal conflict, stress and poor team dynamics. How people talk and relate to each other has everything to do with health. This is shown in Gottman research on positive health outcomes within happy relationships. The quality of our relationship has everything to do with happiness.

I wanted more impact!

More human presence, more mindfulness, more authenticity, more vulnerability, more trust, more kindness, more teamwork, more care. I wanted cultural change…

…so I formed Culture of Care.

After coaching managers ( see strengths coaching profile here) and team leaders in work relationships, building team resilience, improving mental health at work and facilitating crucial conversations, I became curious about how people behaved at home and in their love relationships.

I began to blog about relationships whilst I studied the latest theories and methods used in relationship counselling.

Did you do more training?

Why YES… lots!

  • Gottman Therapy L1 and L2.
  • Developmental Model L1 and L2.

As well as

  • Collaborative Couples therapy as well Discernment Counselling. I trained In somatic experiencing, I am an MBSR ( Mindfulness based stress reduction) Teacher.

And

  • I am DISC accredited. DISC is a behaviour assessment tool based on the DISC theory of psychologist William Moulton Marston.

In addition,

  • I follow and have attended numerous workshops and training programs such as the Relational Life model and Stan Tatkin’s PACT.
What do you love about your work?

I’ve always been passionate about developing people and bringing out their best.

As a Certified Gallup Strengths Coach, I am trained to view people’s interpersonal challenges and conflict from a strengths perspective. I am able to highlight to couples what makes them tick in terms of innate talent. My focus is on the positives strengths and not pathology or what’s wrong.
That way, couples learn to relate as a functional team, each bringing their unique strength-full contribution to the marriage and relationship.

Using a couple’s innate strengths gets better outcomes in marriage and life. It simply makes sense to use what couples do well in counselling.

How would you describe your style?

People tell me my style is different.

The skill I bring is a unique blend of coaching and counselling, that my couples tell me they love and it works in couple counselling.

Here’s what a client says about my skill set:

“what makes working with Iman unique is her ability to combine a robust counselling profession with coaching skills”

(Maria. S.- Communications Manager ( Finance sector)

Mindfulness is at the heart of my personal style. To me, mindfulness is simply awareness, attention and presence in the way we live our lives and the way we do relationships. To build sound connections, we need to know ourselves first and develop the ME that becomes a WE.

I want people to thrive because with each person thriving, we as a community can thrive. We are the same in our difference.

What can people expect if they work with you?

A really good initial assessment is one of the most important pieces in counselling couples because it sets the direction for the groundwork ahead. That’s why I developed a uniques service called the Relationship review.

Having had years of experience auditing and reviewing management systems as they pertain to people’s wellbeing in the corporate workplace, I can bring this skill to couples and homes. My talent in pin pointing the exact areas that need intervention to make the couple system work, is a skill I am grateful for and you can benefit from this now.

My couples are used to hearing me talk about the pivot point and the turning point in their relationship. This refers to the one most impactful area that will improve the relationship.

I adopt a laser beam focus and together, with my couples, we confront, address, heal and solve the pivotal point.

Any final words on your philosophy?

I want to banish loneliness and build care.

I believe relationships are everything. They are the stuff of life . They make the difference between an isolated life of sadness and disconnect or a happy thriving existence. That’s why I have devoted my life to building care.

Care is me walking beside you in partnership, and coaching you in how to walk as a couple, as a team, moving towards your goals.

I love tea and I’m know to sip a cup whilst working.
When I’m not working , I’m walking or running and busily counting my steps.

Reach out now for a free chat to see if Iman can help you to improve your relationship.

Here’s a few pictures of my office space
where I will welcome you in the city
opposite Hyde Park.